What I'm requesting is the right to get listed in the contrib modules area, even if you host your own modules (or themes).
Please, compare with the phpBB or WordPress models.
phpBB has its own official database for MODs and Themes. Developers may host their contribs at other places (there are lots) or even at their own sites. People in certain phpBB Teams validate what authors submit to be published at the official repository, but development and or support may take place wherever. phpBB offers some forums for authors and contrib support, but that is not required.
With WordPress there are also some official resources developers may take advantage, but that's not required. No matter where resources for a plugin/theme are. WordPress offers several catalogs where authors may post their contributions.
Now, let's see Drupal. You have just 2 options
a) Get a Drupal CVS account and use official resources for everything.
b) Do it your way, but it's hard because no one can see what you do.
Well, I hope you can see what I'm trying to say...
What I would like to see here at Drupal.org is something developers could use to post information about their contribs, but not just forums, maybe a catalog like (or extend) the official one, for stuff that's not being developed using official resources.