Warning - I am sure this post is stupid but you Drupal guys seem nicer than most. So thanks ahead of time for your help.
I have googled and searched the forums to death, but unable to decide how best to approach this.
I currently have a site for my old high school chums back in Nebraska using Joomla. I started it as a joke and it has spread like cancer into a full fledged alumni community. I liked Joomla because I could have a "pretty" site in a few minutes. I just found a theme I liked and replaced the header.png image, and walla, my own site. (http://www.dailygeneva.com) Over time I found Joomla/Mambo restrictive, especially in the area of blogs.
I would like to switch the site over to Drupal because it rocks for what I want it for, but all the default themes.....excuse me... look uh, not so "pretty". I can hear my hillbilly friends now, "What did you do to your web site, it looks crappy?"
I am fairly comfortable with HTML/mysql/php but not so in CSS. I like the look of the spreadfirefox theme (curvy tabs), but am looking for something similar to what I already have http://www.dailygeneva.com, but the menu could be different.
Any advice/hints for me to customize my own theme to do what I want. It seems like everyone likes the phptemplate engine and starts with the boxgrey theme. What tutorials are best for a beginner? I am lazy, so I really don't want to hack together my own theme, but with Drupal it kinda looks like I have to, no?