Infinite loop in hook_node_load()

In Disqus module there is a hook_node_load being used. In this hook node load there is a url being created. But the url triggers another hook. Hook outbound alter.

We have some custom code which uses hook outbound alter which uses node_access which in turn triggers an infinite loop.

My patch builds the url differently.

What is the proper way of using the outbound alter. If you cant use node_load or node_access?