Popout and invite issue

I know that there are a few threads regarding the popout issue, but I haven't seen them resolved, and I think mine is a little different.

I get the popout feature to work sometimes. Sometimes the result is a 404 error. The URL that the link tries to find is obviously totally different. When it works, it looks for "http://insightrading.com/chat/created-quotcreate-contentquot?chatroom_po...". When it doesn't, "http://insightrading.com/view-in-popout". There doesn't seem to be any clear reason why this is happening.

As to the invite issue, it works, but not how I would like it to work. If User A invites User B, User B gets the invite only if he refreshes the page or navigates to another page in the site. That just doesn't make sense. User B could potentially leave the site without ever knowing about the invite. Is there a way to use the Views module to create a node that would show User B he has been invited as soon as the invite is sent (or shortly thereafter)?

Thanks